Ferny Unfiltered The Podcast S3 Ep1

What’s it about?

Ferny and Michel Roy chat through the soul mate and twin flame myth. They touch on relationships, shifting your energy, getting over toxic relationships and what those relationships tell us about ourselves. Sit back and take a personal look at relationships of the past to prepare for a stronger relationship with yourself. Also, catch some highlights from Instagram Live Readings of the week.

Prime listening

00.00.24 Is a soul mate or twin flame a real thing?

00.03.15 The concept of a soul mate

00.05.35 Setting yourself up for failure

00.08.39 Relationships as learning Experiences

00.13.31 Shifting your Energy

00.15.38 E-Readings

00.17.23 How you get over the toxic relationship

00.20.50 What toxic relationships tell us about ourselves

00.29.02 What is takes to have a long-term relationship

00.33.19 Instagram Live Reading 1 Missing Uncle

00.42.14 Instagram Live Reading 2 Connection with Grandparents

00.50.22 Instagram Live Reading 3 Connection with Dad

00.57.40 Instagram Live Reading 4 Connection with Mom

Michel Roy

Michel is a Creative Consultant from Houston, TX who specializes in assisting creatives with adjusting their mindset and completing projects. As a podcaster since 2016 she has had to practice the art of pivoting many times and has come to understand the importance of accepting divinity within herself and others. This realization led her to revamp her single podcast into a network of shows that help others recognize their own power and the need for each individual to connect to source in their own way. She offers personalized coaching for creatives as well as one on one consulting at www.mscreativeaf.com

and free resources for growth via her podcast network at

www.betweenusgirlspodcast.com

Michel’s Links

Websites: www.mscreativeaf.com and www.betweenusgirlspodcast.com

Instragram: www.instagram.com/jehosba

Full Transcript of episode

Ferny [00:00:04] So earlier this week, you had made a comment and I was like, oh, I want to talk about this on Saturday because a lot of people have this idea about soul mates and twin flames. So. So tell me what you were thinking. Because I know I went on Instagram and I kind of, like, blew you. What you said is I blew it up. I blew up the theory of the idea behind Soul Mates and Twin Flames.

Michel [00:00:28] So I want to know, like I want to talk about it more because so many psychics, so many spiritual people, like, you know, I mean, all the girl groups and like that's like really one of the main things that they talk about. Just, freakin where is my soul twin where is my twin flame in this life, I mean, it it a thing?

Ferny [00:00:51] Yeah, well, like the way the way that I feel about that, because I totally bought into the whole soul mate and twin flame thing as well, like when I was in my teens and my 20s, I was like, oh my God, where's my soul mate? Or where's my twin flame? And the word twin flame was kind of a bounce off from the idea of soul mates because people got on the soulmate bandwagon and then after that kind of, you know, like people got tired of that, then they kind of moved over to the twin flame, which is another like it's a rebranding of it. Here's the thing. I feel like it's utter bullshit, utter bullshit in the way that most people understand it. And what I mean by that is in the world, in the universe, in the world, when you come into life, there is the opportunity to connect with others in a way where there really is this like sync up that happens here and you will have a unlimited opportunities like that. But most people don't see that. Most people don't understand that. Most people think that there's only one other person in the universe I'm supposed to be with, and I'm supposed to be with that person for all eternity. Or there is just one person in the world that I meant that is going to be a good fit for me. Everybody else is trash, right? And I'm like, no, you're you're first of all, you're setting yourself up for failure. Secondly, you're basically telling the universe that if this person is imperfect or fit within this certain, like, spectrum walks or scheme, it's not going to serve me and I'm not going to go for it. And so that tends to be the case. And so, what I tell people is if you really want to connect with someone or have that bond with others, you need to see yourself as having unlimited potential. There’re unlimited people out there. And I think now with social media and how we can connect with people around the world, it's even more of a reality for us now because we can connect with people. We don't have to be in the same like general area or vicinity. And now with Covid, it it's even more of a reality for people to meet online because they can't really meet in person if they're in lockdown. So, it just depends on the situation. But in the in the world, for example, let's use myself as an example. I have hundreds, if not thousands of potential, quote unquote, soulmates or twin flames that I can connect with here. And it's just a unique energy that is spec on it from a spectrum. It's on the same wavelength as me. So, we kind of link up or sink in that way. The concept of a soulmate, though, and I think this is where people get confused, is the idea that my soul is supposed to be married or have this like other person that's like the other part of myself. So that's where people think of like twin flame or my other half or whatever. The fact that you have to think of yourself as like an incomplete person or a half of anything is bullshit because you're not a half of a person. You're not an incomplete person. You're exactly who you're supposed to be. You're exactly what you're supposed to be right now. And so, you're not supposed you're not supposed to think yourself as half of a person because you're exactly how you should be in this world and in this reality. Our soul is a higher part of ourself. It's like a higher aspect of our nature. So, for me, for example, I'm Spirit, I'm Ferny, my spirit is Ferny, that's I'm in this physical body, etc. When I die, the spirit Ferny will reabsorb back into the soul and the soul we call that the cloud. It's the part of us that collects all of the data, all of the information from all the different lifetimes that we've lived. So that soul is a being unto itself and it is much grander and bigger than Ferny. So when we think of the idea of a soulmate, there are other souls whose vibration is similar to ours in that, there are certain things that we are we are both working on and working towards from this physical plane of existence and when we're down here, my soul, my soul coming through me, which is Ferny I can connect with someone else is linked up to their soul and our souls are on the same wavelength. So, we have something that is pulling us together, but usually that tends to be because we're learning things from each other or we have experiences that we can give each other. And so, we're always going to feel pulled to those people that are going to give us the opportunities to express and to understand and to grow and to evolve. That doesn't mean it's gonna be a positive experience or a negative experience. It just means that it's gonna be an opportunity to grow on this level. If you want to line up with someone who is a good fit or good match for you. That has more to do with energy and vibration and like what you're trying to link up with, what you're trying to synch up to. Twin flame is the same concept of the soul mate. It's just rebranded and repurposed.

Michel [00:05:27] So pretty much you don't need to continue to focus on finding your soul mate.

Ferny [00:05:32] Right. These people, these people who are like, I'm going to say no to anybody and everybody that is not my soulmate. They're setting themselves up for failure there. It's almost like it reminds you of the old adage, like you're you're in your house. It's flooding. You get on top of your roof and use. You Houston folks can, you know, understand this. So, yes, it's flooding. You get on the top of your roof. You're waiting, you're asking God, God, send me the thing that's going to save me, saying send me my save me my perfect boat. It has to be a ship. It has to have all of these luxurious things. It has to be perfect. Send me this perfect ship to save me from this flood. And so, a guy in a raft goes by and, hey, do you need some help? No, I thank you, God's got me. I'm waiting for the perfect ship. I'm waiting for my soulmate. Right. And so, then they go by and then there's another person and they're in a rowboat. Hey, you need some help. You look like you need. Yeah. Yeah. You're boats kinda dinghy. I don't really trust it. So, I'm gonna, like, let you go. And then someone comes along in a speed boat and he's got an engine and you're like, yeah, that's not the cruise ship, just not the luxurious thing I was expecting. This is not the perfect thing, you know. And then that goes by and then people are like, God, why have you just abandoned me? I've never had anybody come into my life and I'm alone for the rest of my life. Girl, you have like three options. And even though they weren't all perfect options, they would have done something for you on a soul level, on a spiritual level, you would have gained from that experience. And everyone is an opportunity to level it up. I mean, even if I would have jumped into that, you know, tire that floaty with with that guy who was on that little inflatable raft, I mean, that's something, right? That's an opportunity to, like, get out of where I was stuck in. And so, he can probably take me over to somebody else's house who had a nicer boat with an engine and then I would have been able to off that. And the people I was like, I don't want to waste my time. I don't want to date someone and waste my time if it's not going to be the perfect relationship, are going to lead to a lifelong relationship. And I'm just like, what the hell kind of a reality are you living in? Like. How do you think you're going to learn what a real relationship should look like? How do you think you're going to learn unless you have pet parents who exemplified the ideal relationship, which most of us haven’t? How the hell you think you're going to learn what is appropriate and what is healthy in a relationship and what isn't? Right.

Michel [00:07:50] So you want.

Ferny [00:07:51] Yeah.

[00:07:51] I feel like that's what you don't have that same. Oh no, no. Because I'm like never really being specific and honest with myself. Is that I really, really do care.

Ferny [00:08:03] Right.

Michel [00:08:04] Because I keep trying to hook up to these standards of society that says you can do it. You're all right. You don't need this. You know, maybe I don't need that. But what I desire is this. And I have to be able to accept that in myself because I think a lot of us are looking for specifically what society told us to do. And we don't know who we are.

Ferny [00:08:24] Right.

Michel [00:08:25] So then we're looking for somebody's ego instead of what we really, really desire. So, it's a lot chile.

Ferny [00:08:32] Yeah. Yeah. Well, I, I, I choose to see every relationship as a learning experience. And even if it doesn't work out, you're going to learn something about yourself. You're going to learn about what your limits are, what you are able to do, what you're not able to do. You know, you're gonna learn who you're not and then learn who you are. I before like, I before my current partner because my partner and I've been together for about like 12 years. Or we're going into twelve years now. But before this relationship, I was in a really toxic and just dra, oh like overly drama, dramatic relationship with my ex. And that was four years of just craziness, before that relationship there had been several, several people, several guys that had come along who were pretty incredible. And I just didn't see it because I was under the impression that I was supposed to end up with someone who's supposed to be the perfect fit for me or the perfect thing that I would be, you know, desiring or whatever. And I met plenty of guys who were really great guys, but I didn't see the value in them. I didn't see the worth. I didn't see what I could do to benefit from that. So, I always had, like, a checklist of like, well, you don't have this, or your pigeon toed I can't date you or like the stupidest superficial reasons for not evolving it into a relationship that could be something beautiful. So, I had all these weird issues and hiccups and stuff. Then I got with my ex and that changed everything because in that relationship I learned who I wasn’t, and I had to like figure myself out and figure out who I was and how I was contributing to that toxic relationship. Once I got out of that, I was more than ready for any of the guys that I had dated previously. Like, I was like, oh, I'm like, y'all are like Kool-Aid compared to this person that I was with. That's just dirty water, you know. And when you're thirsty, you drink. you drink the dirty water when your thirsty but that doesn't mean you should spend the rest of your life drinking dirty water. And that's how I felt. And so after that relationship ended, I was more than ready and prepared for something that was definitely on a whole nother level, and then I met my partner and that just like took off really quickly and it is still I mean, I am grateful because I feel when I see other people in their relationships and like even. I mean, every relationship has issues. Every relationship has things that it should it can work on to improve on. But with my partner, it's like no you're great, you’re a catch. Like, regardless, you're still the catch to me. So, I don't need to mess with that and so I think for people, they need to understand that sometimes you think you know what you want until you experience what you don't want. And then that should teach you and help you to understand what you really, really are needing instead of what you thought was important. So that's why I tell people, even if you're just going to date, it's not a waste your time. Let it help you to figure some things out and then you will line up with something that it will be will be a good fit for you. But don't go around thinking that I'm supposed to have the soulmate or this one person that's perfect for me and the universe is, you know, God is punishing me because I haven't met this one person. Well, are you a crappy person yourself? Do you have issues with your attitude? Do you have a negative mindset? Do you need to look at yourself and how you've contributed to these relationships? Because when it comes down to it, a lot of people like to demonize the ex or the person that didn't work out with because maybe that person decided, you know what, you're a mess. I don't want to have nothing to do with you, bye. And then they leave the relationship and people want to instead, they went up, like, demonized that person, like that persons off or they're horrible or they're evil and they use me, and they treated me badly, I'm like baby girl. Look at yourself because you basically just said, I'm not responsible for the relationships or who I am in relationships. They are and they left me so they're wrong and they're evil and they're bad. And I'm just like, okay, girl. Like, I'm I need you to get a reality check real soon because you're contributing to your own issues, your own problems, and you're not taking responsibility for that. If you want a healthy relationship, if you want a good connection, then offer it. If you can't offer it then shut your mouth and prepare to be alone for the rest of your life or settle down for the toxic relationship that you can only get because that's what you're going to end up with, you know.

Michel [00:12:27] Yeah, yeah. I mean, that's really an important part I think of clearing yourself and getting yourself ready for a relationship is recognizing, he lives in you.

Ferny [00:12:35] Yeah.

Michel [00:12:36] I can't keep saying, well ugh, these people keep showing up, you know, they're attracted to. Yeah. I mean like.

Ferny [00:12:42] Yeah.

Michel [00:12:44] It's like.

Ferny [00:12:45] Yeah.

Michel [00:12:46] Out of alignment. Well I mean. I mean people need to really respect that and say, okay, well maybe I need to spend some time with myself. To find out what I need to fix.

Ferny [00:12:56] Yeah.

Michel [00:12:56] Know what I mean, where I'm suffering or where I'm, like cause I know for me my self-esteem has not always been where it needs to be.

Ferny [00:13:04] Right.

Michel [00:13:05] So of course I'm like, yes, you. They're down there come up here to me, you know what I'm saying?

Ferny [00:13:12] Yeah.

Michel [00:13:14] So I just need to like, you know, it's been myself. I think it's important that we remember that, acknowledge it and respect it. And like you said, stop blaming everything on a shitty partner.

Ferny [00:13:25] Well, you know, I. Another thing about it is that when you do shift energy like people recognize and notice it. I think when I first started learning how to love myself, authentically loving myself, I'm not talking about like, oh, look, you're so cute. Oh, look, you're so beautiful. Oh, look. Look at you, Ferny you're like, not that's not what I'm talking about when I say learning to love yourself. That's a superficial love is not authentic. I mean, there's nothing wrong with like, ooh wow, I look great. You know, there's nothing wrong with that. But authentic love. You don't have to constantly tell yourself that you're this or that. You just feel love for yourself and you're going to do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself, to protect yourself, and to provide yourself with nurturing experiences and surrounding yourself with people that are only going to be authentic or at least show up, you know. And yes, granted, we all have situations where we have to deal with family and not everybody that we deal with in family is, you know, a great person. And it's not the easiest to deal with. But still, like when you authentically love yourself. All of a sudden something shifts inside of you, something energetically moves. And what tends to happen is you start to see people coming to you or approaching you or being drawn to you who just naturally want to love you and naturally want to feel that love and they feel it from you and they want to give it back as well. So, I think today, growing up into the, as a young gay guy, like I was constantly trying to feel like I was worthy, or I was attractive or whatever. Now I'm like now I'm just I'm just me and take it or leave it. I love you all. I'm going to give you the very best of me that I can give you. But I'm going to probably disappoint you at some point. I'm probably piss you off at some point, but I still love you and I'm still gonna give you what I want and what I need to give you. But now people like they just they just come up with the show up with love. And I even just like when I get on an appointment with a client and the first person that I see, like, there's just this I like immediately I already know I love you, like I love you and I'm here to love you. I'm not here to hurt you and you can feel that energy like coming back from them. And so, when you get used to that, all of a sudden, the people around you in everyday experiences, you just start to encounter more people like that.

Ferny [00:15:27] So I had a really good e-reading, e-reading question this week. One of my the e-reading people, so people like whenever like for people don't know what an e-reading is, people who want a reading, but they don't have time to wait for me to have an opening for the appointment or they want to just ask me and they want to short like return. They can do an e-reading which is like 70. You get your answer back in 72 hours. But with the e-reading people can ask me all kinds of questions and some people ask some really great questions sometimes. And one of the questions that I got this week was someone who said, how can I cope and move on from a really bad relationship or toxic relationship? And that's a really good question, because a lot of people get stuck in old energy and they they get stuck on somebody and they can't move forward. Like I know people who have been, like, stuck on someone for 15, 20 years. And they're like, Ferny, is this person going to come back into my life? I'm like, baby girl it has been fifteen to twenty years. You need to move on because you had a taste of something. Like it's almost like I walked into the Costco. The lady was out with her samples and I had this little piece of chocolate that she was like sample sampling out and oh my God, it was the best piece of chocolate I ever had. But it's just like one little bite it wasn't like a whole meal and so ever since then, that person has been stuck on that one piece of chocolate. And so, they're the rest of their lives they're walking around, "When am I going to get, like, something delicious, like that piece of chocolate?" But they're stuck in that one piece. I'm like with you already. You you absorb that. You gobbled it up. You had the experience you were supposed to have with that and so they're stuck on those relationships and they don't know how to move forward and move past it. And what I say is, well, first let me ask you, because, I mean, you just you recently went through a little bit of a split with somebody and what has been helping you, like, work through that?

Michel [00:17:13] My music. I play songs that remind me that I'm that bitch, you know what I mean, like for me at all every time I break up, was always like, I'm terrible. Nobody will like me. Nobody will ever love me, blah, blah, blah. I don't have time for that shit. So, I'm like, hey, so how do I keep myself moving forward? Because, I mean, I'm allowed to feel feelings and to have sat there because we spent time together.

Ferny [00:17:45] Yeah.

Michel [00:17:45] You know, there was bonding, but I have to also recognize the trauma in that bond. So, what were we bonding over? What were we healing? What were we doing? What work were we taking part in? So, you know, self-reflection and self-acceptance, self-love. And, you know, just really realizing that, like, I probably need to spend some time on myself. I have like twelve thousand balls in the air I'm trying to juggle. You know what I mean. Oh.

Ferny [00:18:13] Yeah.

Michel [00:18:14] Get myself on the level and balance it so that the next time somebody comes, there's no wobble for me.

Ferny [00:18:22] Yeah. I think, I think for me what helped me out of the toxic relationship. I actually just started jogging and using music and what I would do in my my approach was more like spiritual visual, because I really believe in the power of visualization with music. You know, a lot of people who they practice like law of attraction or manifestation, they just focus on like visualizing like I'm gonna visualize that car and it's going to like come it’s going to come to me. I'm like, okay, good luck, girl, you know? But for me, that visualization with music is what really helps me to move forward and to thrust myself forward. I think like I was obsessed with Kelly Clarkson when I ended that that toxic relationship because she had just come out with that that album and it, there was a lot of good songs on there, and I think one of them was something to do with being toxic or something like that. Anyways, I will get in my car. I would drive to my first job, which was at that time I was working at a doctor's office, at a podiatrist office. And so, I would drive to work, and I would listen to that Kelly Clarkson album and I would cry the entire way to work because I just felt just empty and alone and rejected and I didn't know the value of my own worth. I didn't know that my own worth and value. So, I felt the emptiness inside, and people tend to use relationships to fill them up because they don't know how to fill themselves up and so that's what I had used that relationship as, as a way to fill myself up. So, when it was gone, I felt completely devoid and like something was missing in my life and so I would go and drive to work and I'd listen to Kelly Clarkson. And then I'd get into work, dry my tears, walk in there. Hey y'all. Hey, everybody. You know, be Ferny for whatever had to be for that day. Get done with work. Jump in my car. Drive over to my second job, which was with Starbucks at the time and so I would cry all the way to my second job and then I would get into the parking lot, dry my eyes, pull it together, and then I'd go and get in and start working at Starbucks and making lattes and stuff. So that's pretty much what I did to get through that in the for the first two or three weeks and that's not a bad way to deal with it. But then once you get past that, the immediate loss and the immediate pain, you have to deal with what that brought up within you. And.

Michel [00:20:33] Yeah

Ferny [00:20:34] Most of us don't realize that relationships bring up a lot within us. And for me, the person the person that I was with represented my father, who I never knew, my father, my mother had me out of wedlock cause he was married and she was his mistress. So, I never knew my father. He wanted her to have an abortion and she said no, because she was Catholic, Mexican. His Mexican Catholics are they don't do that. But. So, I never met my father and then the stepfather that came into my life several years later was very abusive and so that just beat my ego in my my sense of self and value down even more. And then when that situation ended and then I continue to be bullied in school because I was gay or because of this or because of that. Oh, your effeminate or you you talk like this or whatever. So, I had to deal with all these male rejection scenarios where they were treating me like crap or abusing me or whatever. And then I was also molested as well as a child. So, you add all of that in and they can do a real number on you. So when I got into that relationship, this person was the same background as my stepfather, who was very abusive, and this person also had, he even though he embodied a sense of dominance and control, it wasn't like dominance and control, like I got your back and I'm going to I've got this. Like, don't worry, I got this. It was more like; you need to do what I want you to do. This is, he always has to say this thing. He says, "I am I am the head. You are the neck. I call the shots. You turn me in the direction you think you want me to go. But I'm the one that's at the top." And so that was always his saying and so for me, it was like, okay, but I got used to that because I was I was raised and conditioned into that growing up. So, it was a really hard relationship to work through and it was a lot of toxicity that I worked through. But it brought up all this stuff within me that I didn't even realize I was holding on to and it made me face it. And so instead of feeding into more abuse, more self-worth issues, more of that, instead of feeding into that, I was like, you know what, motherfuckers? All y'all, all y'all in my past, all of you include starting from my ex, going all the way back to my father, all of you motherfuckers. Y'all didn't believe in me. Y'all didn't think I would be anything. Y'all acted like I was nothing and I was trash. Let me fucking show you what I can do and so that was my mindset. And so, at that point I was like, all right, motherfuckers. Like, I'm gonna show y'all. I'm gonna show y'all who I am and what I'm capable of, because no one here believes that I can be something. So, let me just show you what I can be and then I busted my ass and moved forward. But it really did. It was a mental shift and I used that one experience to kind of thrust myself in another direction. I could have easily gone into the victim, into the victim, state, cause that's what we all tend to do. Right? We're like, I'm the victim. I'm the one that the universe is picking on. I'm the one that has been, you know, abused and treated this way and I have no control and no power and it's just all coming down on me. And I was tired of that because I'd been that for so long in my life and so I was like, no, I'm gonna take this in another direction. That's what I did, and I would go jogging in the park and I would listen to some of my favorite music, like Adele, like Adele's Hello, I think was coming out at that time. And so, I would imagine. Yes. Yes. It's like I would jog, and I would be jogging and be listen to my music. And I would imagine that my heart would open up and inside of my heart was this darkness that was there from all of these relationships with males across the board. And what I would do is I would jog, and I would see that darkness in my heart, and I would envision or visualize it starting to come away from my heart and this black darkness is coming and coming, coming. And I would just release it and let it go up and I would imagine, like the light of God coming down to me and raising that out of me. And I would just envision it raising it out of me and then I would just send it back. I'm like, here you go, you go send it to whoever created this within me. I'm sending it back to where it came from and so I would listen to this music hello from the other side. And like, because I am on the other side and I'm not going to be up in there with y'all. I'm a be up on the other side. And that's what I did. And I did that every single day for like sixty days and at the end of that 60-day period, first of all, I had lost like 50 pounds. So that was a great, great way to do it because I was doing it like once, twice a day ever every day, because it was it was therapy for me, just even walking in the park and listening to it. The visualization is helpful. And so, I did that and then, so I lost all that weight. So, I felt I felt even better about myself because not only did I start to feel lighter and like I was releasing something, but I also had an incredible like I had a new body and was like, oh, my God. Like, I feel great about myself. I was getting attention again. So that was fueling some of that self-worth value, but I was already building it from within and so as time went on, I didn't feel angry anymore and I wasn't mad. And I wasn't like, I actually got to a point where I was grateful for the experiences because every one of those taught me something. And it taught me who I wasn’t, and it taught me what I needed to do in certain situations to protect myself, which I love myself more than the other person was able to love me. Because sometimes when you're in a relationship, if someone doesn't know how to love you, then set the example and show them how to love you by loving yourself the way you need to be loved. And use that example now by saying, look, you're not treating me the way you should and you're responsible for the crap in this relationship and you're the reason why this relationship isn't working. No, no, no. Just treat yourself the way you would like to be treated and hold that to the hold that to the standard and show them the example of how they should treat you because they might actually rise to the occasion and become that if they don't, then they don't. But at least you are in the face of it, not transforming yourself to accommodate that person's bullshit.

Michel [00:26:23] Right. I mean, so essentially that means sometimes you have to walk away. If that relationship isn't working for you?

Ferny [00:26:31] Yeah.

Michel [00:26:31] You know, because really, you're the only person that can protect you from anything, you know, and if you don't love yourself, which is what we're all really working through because we all had a trauma. You know, that has kind of put us in that spot at some point.

Ferny [00:26:46] Right.

Michel [00:26:46] Like you have to you, you have to decide that you're going to be your own hero.

Ferny [00:26:52] Right.

Michel [00:26:52] You know, you have to. And I think that's just where I'm at right now is like, you know, I have to say this works for me. This doesn't work for me. And, you know if something, doesn't, like, I can't be worried about whether or not I'm going to make an enemy out of it, like, OK, sorry, you know, like this.

Ferny [00:27:12] But it takes practice because it's easier said than done. And I mean, this is something I had to learn through experience because you can read a book. But when you're in the moment and you're dealing with the pain, people just immediately surrender into the pain and they get stuck in that and they don't know how to overcome the pain because all they're trying to do is just stop the pain. And so, people's immediate reaction is, what can I do to stop the pain? Well, I'm feeling pain because this person's not in my life. Let me get back with that person or make that work so I don't have to feel the pain and what I would say is make peace with the pain and learn to love your pain, because once you get past that initial period of discomfort and loss, you're going to start to examine some things and see some things in a very different way. And then that will help you to rise to the occasion of what the universe is calling of you in the moment by just giving you this experience to begin with.

Michel [00:28:00] Right. OK. Drop the bomb. You’re so right and yesterday I was listening to Esther Abraham, I'm obsessed with her first of all, but just listening to her talk about relationships, it's like they're supposed to be temporary. You guys, it's not supposed to be like, OK. This is my forever lover. Like, that's fine in fantasy, I think most of the time. But if you're constantly changing, you cannot expect everybody that you're always with to stay with you because if they can't vibe with you it will break apart.

Ferny [00:28:35] Yeah.

Michel [00:28:36] You know it won't last.

Ferny [00:28:38] Right.

Michel [00:28:38] People don't rise. You rise. You can't go together. You know?

Ferny [00:28:42] Yeah. Exactly. Why not? I don't. I don't know a lot of couples who have been married for as long as like 40, 50, 60 years who did not go through trials of their own, who you know, there are very few of those where they didn't have any issues. Every time you talk to those people, you get to know those people. Something happens at some point and they had to work through it. They had to really push through the issue or the challenges. So, people think like and that's the wording of the way that people word their questions. Ferny, when am I going to get married and finally be happy? Oh, my baby girl like, if you think that happiness is coming from a relationship, you are going to be sorely disappointed because it is not someone else's responsibility to make you happy. You need to learn what happiness is without needing somebody to make that happen for you. So, when you do find someone that you match up with or do well with, then at least you can share the happiness with them, and they can also share their happiness with you. But if you're like in with somebody and you're like, you know, when are they going to make me happier? Am I going to finally be happy? I'm just like, you know, well first of all this is planet Earth. We came here to struggle as humans. It's part of the experience of being a spirit in a human physical environment. But you can find real love. You can find authentic love. You can find love that will last a long time and probably the remainder of your life. But you have to make sure that you understand what that includes and what comes along with that. You know, it's like I want to have children and be a perfect mom. I go, okay. But, you know, you're going to have a lot of sleepless nights. You know, your children are gonna make you crazy. You know that something, something is gonna happen when you give them birth and it ain't going to be fun to go through that. Right. And if you know any women who have had fun giving birth, you let me know because I want to interview them. But, you know, it's painful. It's a painful experience. But something beautiful is created from a painful experience. In relationships is the same thing you're gonna go through painful experiences, but something beautiful can come from that if you're committed to it and if both people are on the same page, if one person isn't, let them go, let them go, because at least you know what to recognize and some of those signs that they may have been showing you that you refuse to see because you were so in love with the idea of what y'all could have together instead of actually working together to create something together. You know, it's almost like, oh, ferny, no, no, I ain't got time to be wasting with people. Like this is what I wanted to do when I'm thirty-one. And then when I'm thirty five, I wanted to have the perfect twins and I'm just like, OK, well you're probably not going to be happy in your relationships and you're probably going to be very disappointed because you're completely living in a bubble of in reality and you got to get realistic. You know who I blame for this? I blame the Notebook. I blame, I blame the Notebook. I blame Michelle and Barack because they seem to have a power couple per, you know, relationship and not everybody's relationship can be like Michelle and Barack. You know, some people got Oprah and Steadman relationships where they don't get married, but they're together forever and they love each other. Some people, you know, some people have relationships where, you know, it's really not the healthiest situation and but they end up sticking it out anyways. I have a cousin and he and his wife, they got together when they were teenagers and they were I mean, they it was a crazy ass relationship. She tried to run him over once and, you know, he you know, he broke his legs. I mean, the crazy relationship. But they're still together to this day and I can honestly say that they love each other because they were young and they didn't know what was healthy and what wasn't and they kind of had to learn over time what was healthy, what wasn't. But they were both so committed to sticking it out with each other and they stayed together. That's not what I would suggest people do. I don't think y'all should run each other over to learn lessons. I think that, you know, you can, you know, be healthy and you can, like, put a stop to certain things and I almost think they should've broken up a long time ago. But today they're in a different place. But they stuck it out and they worked through stuff. But a lot of these couples, they've been together for 40, 50 years. They worked through their shit and that's what really helps them. But they're realistic and once they think people when they go into the relationship, they have an idea of what it should be like and then they reality hits and they're like, oh, now I have to decide if I want a real relationship or if I want the ideal because this person isn't the ideal. Right.

Michel [00:32:50] I mean, and real relationships take work. Like, you can't always just have fun. You know, like if you're talking about being together and like, really growing and building something, then prepare to pull some weight, you know, like somebody scratch on both sides. And if you're saying what you want is love and as long as it's not outside of your boundaries, then if you're resisting it. Are you ready for a relationship, you know?

Ferny [00:33:17] Yeah, exactly.

Instagram Live Client [00:33:19] Hi.

Ferny [00:33:20] I can see you now! YAY! Perfect. OK. Sorry. Yeah. I don't know what's going on, but it's back and you're good. OK, so.

Instagram Live Client [00:33:28] So my uncle's been missing for three months and we've reported him, and we have no answers from the police or anybody.

Ferny [00:33:39] Yeah. So. OK. So, there's a couple things I want to say about this. I the first thing I'll say is when we're done, because I'm not going to be able to give you everything, I need to give you when we're done. I want you to shoot my assistant an email. Just go to my Web site and shoot her email and let her know that we spoke on the live and I asked you to email her because I want to actually do a full missing persons like session for him to see if I can give you anything else that might be helpful to you. Because we're not going to have that much time right now. OK. But here's the thing. I feel, first of all, I feel like. I keep seeing three people around him, so I feel like there are three people that would know or have an idea of what has happened to him. I don't feel like he's just gone off and he's just missing somewhere. I feel like something's happened and I feel like something's happened and he's not able to let anybody know or he's not able to do anything to to to give anybody information about this because he's not in a position where he can. When I say it that way, it's going to be hard for me to say this. When I say that way. I'm not feeling confident about him still being around.

Instagram Live Client [00:34:44] OK.

Ferny [00:34:44] OK. I want to put that out there first. But I feel that there are three people that are around the situation that may have an idea or know what happened. One of those people would be considered a close friend. So, I feel like there's a close friend that knows more than they've said or knows more about what's going on. Before he went missing. Was he supposed to? Was he supposed to sign documents or forms or sign papers that were going there were supposed to be like legal agreements or legal forms?

Instagram Live Client [00:35:24] He asked me to, but I didn't go with him to the bank. But I don't know if my cousin, his daughter did. I don't know.

Ferny [00:35:34] OK. Because I feel like he was intending to do some things or to make some changes and it got a little bit confusing. And also, some other people may have may not have wanted that to happen. So, I feel like there's someone close to him who knows what would happen. The area that he lived, the bank that he was supposed to go to. Is that going to be like kind of in an area where he lives, where he lives at?

Instagram Live Client [00:36:06] Yes.

Ferny [00:36:06] OK. By that area. Do you know if there are any, like, big silos or refineries?

Instagram Live Client [00:36:14] No.

Ferny [00:36:15] You know, those big. Are you Houston?

Instagram Live Client [00:36:18] No, no, no. We're here in L.A. Los Angeles.

Ferny [00:36:20] Oh, you're in LA. OK. So, in Houston, there are these huge refineries and they're like these huge like big like I want to say like tire shaped big structures. And I guess. OK. Do you know there's a place like that around where he lives or where he was supposed to go that day?

Instagram Live Client [00:36:41] Well, we he's, um, he lives near a cemetery and then there's a bridge where they told us they saw him, or he used to hang out. But. Other than that.

Ferny [00:36:56] No this is this is, let me see. Let me see if I can draw this so I can show you. I'm going to have to do it. We're going to have to do a full session because it's going to be hard for me to give you everything you need to get here. So. If I were gonna draw this for you, it. OK. So, it's almost like that, so it'd be like a building that's like that. But it's like a light colored like white or and it's not a building. It's almost like it holds water. I don't know if it's a water like tank or a a refinery like drum, but it almost reminds me of that there are some like this around that area where he lived at. They may not be that huge, but there's some around there and I feel like if people were to look in that area, they may find evidence or something that can support the search for him.

Instagram Live Client [00:37:53] OK.

Ferny [00:37:54] OK, we'll, we'll connect after this is done. So, I'm going to have you shoot me and email. But I do not feel confident about him still being alive and I feel like he wouldn't have just done that. He's not the kind of person to just wander off and not be around like he would have told people where he was going or what. Because he reminds me, my uncle Carlos, did he sometimes get afraid of going out to want to do things by himself and he wanted people to, like, go do stuff with him? Like he didn't really like to go out just by himself all the time?

Instagram Live Client [00:38:23] He was he was very afraid of things; I remember that, and I know that he was really, really sick. He was really sick. He didn't want us to see him. He had terminal cancer and he didn't want us to see him suffer.

Ferny [00:38:37] Yeah.

Instagram Live Client [00:38:38] And he was very scared. I know when one of my other uncles was was dying, he didn't want to be present and he kept avoiding coming to the hospital. He was like a chicken. Like a big chicken.

Ferny [00:38:49] Right. I feel like. He talked to somebody or there was a conversation that day or there was communication and they kind of know what happened or they know more and they just haven't said it because they don't want to tell people or they just don't want to share what they were, what they heard. But I feel like someone like close friend or close person to him knows has a good idea what's happened, but they haven't said anything, or they don't want to talk about it. So, I feel like it feels like that, but I feel like there's a building like this or a structure like this where if there's if they look around that there may be something there that y'all can find evidence around with his disappearance. I don't think it's going to be where y'all typically think he would. He would have been like; I know you were talking with the bridge. That's like a typical common place. This is a place that he wouldn't have normally gone to.

Instagram Live Client [00:39:43] You know, he went to the day before he disappeared, he went to to a city and cars. He went to Carson to see one of my aunts and I don't know how he would have made it back home because he was that ill. And I always tell my mom, like, I wonder if, like, something happened on the way home that day, you know, and this is in April, the end of April. So, I don't know. I don't know what to think anymore.

Ferny [00:40:08] Here's what we do when we get you. When you get off, just shoot me. The thing I'm going to ask you for the location that he'd like, the area that he lives in. And then also where he was traveling from, because I'm going to, like, scope through the area to see if I can see anything that reminds me of what I'm seeing in my head.

Instagram Live Client [00:40:23] There is refineries in in Vernon and I believe in Huntington Park. There's one. And there's a refinery and Carson also.

Ferny [00:40:31] OK. Thank you. OK. This is somewhere around there. So, I feel like this is going to be around that area because I feel, I almost feel like I. I feel like there's a slight hill or a slight I don't know, it's just like hill or a slight cliff that comes down. It comes down. And then there's these buildings or these things. There's also this fence that separates it from like where people can access it. So, I feel like if I go behind this area or go in this area, there's something there that might indicate where he is.

Instagram Live Client [00:40:56] OK.

Ferny [00:40:57] OK. He's OK, sweetheart. He's OK. He's also he's acknowledging the month of February and he's talking about a birthday. Does someone have a birthday in February?

Instagram Live Client [00:41:08] February is his wife's birthday. With, I mean, his wife's birthday and his daughters in April.

Ferny [00:41:14] Got it. He wants to acknowledge her birthday, so he's acknowledging her birthday. He also is acknowledging a new baby is somewhat pregnant in the family or and if someone just find out. He says he has a daughter.

Instagram Live Client [00:41:24] His daughter, and she's watching right now.

Ferny [00:41:26] That's it. So, he wants to acknowledge for her that he knows about the baby. So, she wants her to know that. Which because he's giving me this information that makes me think that he is not here anymore. So that's why I'm telling you that. But I feel he's he's OK. He's fine. But he is acknowledging that he knows about the baby. OK.

Instagram Live Client [00:41:44] Thank you.

Ferny [00:41:45] You're welcome sweetheart.

Instagram Live Client [00:41:45] Muchas Gracias.

Ferny [00:41:49] [Speaking Spanish]. OK.

Instagram Live Client [00:41:51] Thank you, I'll e-mail you.

Ferny [00:41:52] You're welcome, sweetheart.

Instagram Live Client [00:41:53] Thank you.

Ferny [00:41:54] All right. So, let's see. All right. So, I just saw somebody else that I needed to bring on. There you are muchacha.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:42:14] Oh, you got me folding clothes! How are you?

Ferny [00:42:20] I'm good. Can you hear me okay?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:42:23] Yeah. Let me turn on my ballot. Can you hear me okay? I'm sorry.

Ferny [00:42:26] I'm gonna put in my earbuds because.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:42:28] I'm a hot mess.

Ferny [00:42:31] All right, Mama. What did you want to ask me?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:42:34] Well. Well, my mom is here. My my grandpa passed away a couple years ago. And I was just wondering, you know, if he has any messages for her. She only speaks Spanish. So,

Ferny [00:42:45] Yeah.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:42:46] She's right here.

Ferny [00:42:48] No, it's. Yeah, it's fine. It's fine. First of all, he showed me the number two or twenty-two, it's one, either two or twenty-two. Do you know of the second of a month of the 22nd second of the month is connected because he's showing me that it's either that or February? But I've seeing that, two. The two numbers. So, it's either February or the second of a month. Do you know if there's a connection to that with either one of you?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:43:11] With my mom. Ah, yeah. She got her anniversary's in February.

Ferny [00:43:16] OK. So, he's acknowledging the anniversary or referencing. Your Dad's, your dad passed?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:43:23] No, not my dad.

Ferny [00:43:24] OK. Hold on a second, let me see where. You know what. Your grandpa is present, but I want to say there's somebody else who wants to kind of chime in for a second. Is your dad's mom passed, your grandmother?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:43:37] Yes.

Ferny [00:43:37] She wants to say hello. So, she's wanting to acknowledge, be acknowledged to say hello. She says she's the. Thank you. She says she's y'alls angel. So, she wants y'all to know that she's been coming around and trying to let you know she's around y'all. She also says,

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:43:48] Yes,

Ferny [00:43:48] She messed, she messed with the curtains or she messed with the blinds. That's something funny or weird happen with the curtains or the blinds.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:43:55] Yeah, I, I remember some one of ours fell like, ah, like one of these shutter things, up here.

Ferny [00:44:04] Yeah. Because she's acknowledging messing with the curtains or blinds to get y'alls attention. She also thanks y'all for the prayers. Is your mom a devout Catholic or does she really practice the Catholic faith because she's acknowledged your mom praying for her.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:44:14] Yeah.

Ferny [00:44:14] Also says does she not get a chance to go to churches often or does she. Has she not been able to go to church? And she's, like, really wanting to go.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:44:20] Yeah. we are in quarantine. Oh, we don't have, we haven't been able to go to mass

Ferny [00:44:24] That's right. Your grandmother your grandmother wants your mom to know. Get that. Let me see your mom. Let me talk to your mom. Let me go meet.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:44:30] Mommy. Ben Mommy.

Ferny [00:44:34] Given her even though she's not on camera, that's fine. As long as I can hear her and she can hear me. OK.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:44:38] Contigo, It's Ferny. [Speaking Spanish]

Ferny [00:44:41] [Speaking Spanish]

Ferny [00:45:46] Did she? Do you know. Do you know if she had a stroke or there was an issue with the side of her body?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:45:53] My grandma, my mom, my dad's mom passed away after pancreatic cancer, but they didn't find it. They went they tried to cure it and when they tried to cure it, it just spread, and they died. She did great under surgery, but she died.

Ferny [00:46:09] Because she was just showing me, as she says, she felt numb or sad that she couldn't feel. Side of her body or part of her body. She didn't know what was going on. Do y'all know, if her heart just stopped pumping blood or does, it literally stops? But she's acknowledging that I don't feel the side of my body. And typically, whenever that comes up, it usually means that someone had a clot or someone had a stroke or something triggered their passing, because that's the way she's making me feel.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:46:32] She passed in Mexico. And I was very, I was 19. We couldn't go. My dad was the only one that went. But all his, her kids were with her. So, I will ask my Aunt.

Ferny [00:46:41] OK. Because she's just acknowledging that. She also said La Princessa. Who was the princess in the family?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:46:46] I know maybe me I'm the only daughter. No.

Ferny [00:46:50] No, no one of her. Does she have a daughter?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:46:52] She has four daughters.

Ferny [00:46:54] OK. Is one of them like the princess? Like she thinks she's everything and she tries to act like she knows everything and like everything about everything about her or she acts like that. I'm very self-centered. OK. Yeah. So, she's acknowledging like y'all having patience with her. She also keeps acknowledging for your mom. Thank you. She says your grandfather is there. So, she wants acknowledged for your mom that the grandfather is there. She told.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:47:14] My mom's dad?

Ferny [00:47:15] Your mom's dad. So, she's acknowledging your mom's dad.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:47:18] Abueltio, Si?

Ferny [00:47:20] He also he she's telling me that. Thank you. He can feel his lower body, part of his lower body now. So, do you know if he couldn't feel part of his legs or he was having circulation issues with his legs?

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:47:32] He was having trouble walking.

Ferny [00:47:34] OK.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:47:35] Yeah. His legs. Yeah. He was in a walker and he passed very you know, he.

Ferny [00:47:43] So before before you tell me too much, he's acknowledging that he can walk now or he's fine. He also says that there was an internal infection or some sort of break or something that happened. And it triggered like I want to say, it almost triggered his blood to become contaminated or a substance like situation.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:48:00] OK. Makes sense.

Ferny [00:48:02] Because he said he kept getting cold and he didn't know what he was sick. He never told you. And so, it wasn't because. He also says to your mom, he says that he has come in a dream and he says that she didn't understand what he was saying, but maybe he was too far away, or she couldn't make out what he was saying. But he says he came in a dream. Also, is there a picture of him wearing like a suit with like as he is showing a young picture of himself looking really good, so young. Yeah. And it might even be black and white because he's acknowledged this, that there it is. So, he's acknowledging the picture of him in the suit. It's black and white. So, he wants to acknowledge that as well and he says that is his favorite picture and also, he said to somebody, does this is the way he's showing himself to me. So, he's showing himself to me in this way. He also is acknowledging his watch or the broken watch. So, yeah, that's. Yeah, yeah. He's around. He's with y'all and he's with your other grandmother, so there's a lot of them there.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:48:59] OK. That's really good to know. Thank you so much. Thank you for what you do when you bring it to us.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:49:06] You're welcome, sweetheart. [Speaking Spanish] Her mom has passed. So, it was not her mom. It's it's my dad's mom.

Ferny [00:49:17] Right. That was your dad's mom that was communicating some of that. Your your your grandma your mom's mom keeps acknowledging having the same birthday month that someone in the family said, you know, her birthday is the same as someone.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:49:30] Did you know? I don't know if I do. She'd never told anybody her actual birthday. So, we don't even know her birthday cause she was so private and didn't like attention.

Ferny [00:49:40] Yeah, it was December.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:49:41] December was a birthday. Yeah, we have a huge family, so I'm pretty sure we have in there.

Ferny [00:49:48] It's the first week or two of December. If you'll look her up, there's just some more ancestry. Yeah, we'll be able to confirm the date.

Instagram Live Client 2 [00:49:54] Wow. Perfect. Thank you so much Ferny. I appreciate it. Have a good day.

Ferny [00:50:00] You too. bye.

Ferny [00:50:05] All right. So, let's see.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:50:13] Go.

Ferny [00:50:15] Hello.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:50:17] Close the door

Ferny [00:50:22] How are you doing?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:50:23] Hi.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:50:26] So the question I have for you, was my father passed away in a brawl and it was so like it happened so fast and with Covid and stuff

Ferny [00:50:40] Yes.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:50:41] We weren't prepared.

Ferny [00:50:42] Yeah. So, before you tell me so much, you must me see if I can connect to him so I can. OK, so first of all, he keeps making me feel like there was already something else that he was dealing with or some other illness that he had. Do you know if he had actually been tested for cancer or that he was going to get some tests to see if there was something going on with his pancreas?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:51:05] No, not with his pancreas.

Ferny [00:51:09] So he. It's ok. No that's ok, let me do it, let me do it. He keeps acknowledging there was an issue going on in his body, that he knew something was wrong because he was having trouble with the digestive system and he was having trouble using the bathroom. And so, something was wrong. Right. And he makes me feel like if he didn't pass of what he did, he would have passed of something else that would have taken a long time and it would have drug out a while. And your dad did not want to have to be bedridden or deal with any kind of situation where he would be stuck in a bed. He says, no, no, no. So, he didn't want to deal with that. So for me, the way he passed, the way he says it is like this was his way out because he wouldn't have to deal with like a situation like cancer because he says there were issues going on and had he gotten tested, there would have been indications that something was wrong. He also shows me the month of March. Do you know if March or the or the month of March is connected in some way Its either March or the 3rd, so it’s either March or the third of a month? Because he's acknowledging that. There's two, there's there's two, there's two. There's two there's two dates of significant, but they're not in the same month, they're like a week apart, but they're in separate months. So, it's almost like one person would have a date of significance in like, let's say, March. The other one would have it in April, but they would be a week apart. But there are two different months. But he's acknowledging two separate dates of significance. But he brought up that third so I'm thinking it's either the third of a month or it's March. But he's acknowledging that. He also is acknowledging that he he touched your sheets, or he messed with your bedding. So, I don't know if you had an experience where you felt like somebody was getting into bed and you didn't. You thought somebody else wasn't in. There was nobody get into bed or your sheets were moved. But he's acknowledging like he tried to let you know he was around you in that way. He thanks you. He puts his hand over his mouth, which means I didn't get a chance to say goodbye or I wasn't able to speak before my passing. So, he's acknowledging that as well. He also says that he wasn't. He wasn't alone when he passed. So, I don't know if y'all worried or wondered if someone would hang was with them. He says he wasn't alone, that he was not alone. So, he's acknowledging that. He also keeps referencing. Is there a Louis or a Lewis, Lu Lewis or Lu? Oh, a Lu name maybe Lupi, but it's Louis or Lu sounding name?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:53:38] No, I don't know.

Ferny [00:53:40] That's OK. There's an L.U. connection to your mom, so if you asked your mom, it would be like an Lu like Lou, Louis, Louie. There's a name that's connected in that way. Your dad is also acknowledging. Thank you. Did y'all have to delay his services or did you have to do something to make a change? Because he's acknowledging that he knows that it had to be it couldn't be the way it was normally.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:53:59] Yeah. Because of the Covid we had to keep it small and simple.

Ferny [00:54:05] He's also acknowledging that he is he is OK, and he is fine. He doesn't want you to worry. Does one of y'all want to do another event or another memorial for him and on his anniversary to properly memorialize him because he's acknowledging knowing that y'all want to do it. Thank you. So, he's referencing that he knows about that and that he says he's OK with that. He doesn't want you to worry. He also says thank you. Was he cremated?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:54:27] No.

Ferny [00:54:28] OK, why is he showed me a necklace that holds value? Like like it's a big chunky necklace. So, he's acknowledging something that's like a big chunky necklace.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:54:38] He used to wear it all the time. Gold. A gold like that. And an anchor of gold.

Ferny [00:54:45] Oh, OK. He is acknowledging the big chunky necklace. So, I thought maybe he was like the remains. He's referencing that. Do y'all still have the necklace?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:54:53] Yes.

Ferny [00:54:53] Got it. He's referencing that. Is the chain slightly bent on one side or does it need to be fixed in one spot because he's acknowledging that the chain might break, or it might be bent. Take a look. Take a look at it when you get a chance, because he's acknowledging something like that as well. He also is drawing on my skin. You know, someone's planning on getting a tattoo for him.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:55:13] Me.

Ferny [00:55:14] Ok he knows that you're going to be getting a tattoo for him. He also says that he loves you. He also says to tell. Thank you. He wants to acknowledge your mom said, so he's saying I love your mom or acknowledging your mom. He also wants to acknowledge. Is there a picture of him where he's sitting down on the chair of the couch and he's wearing like a red or maroon colored shirt?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:55:37] Yeah.

Ferny [00:55:37] Got it, he's acknowledging that image of the picture. So, he wants you to know about that picture. That's its favorite picture. He says that you're his baby and that you're always gonna be his baby. He also says that you need to be strong for the family. Now, under normal circumstances, I would say let yourself feel the way you feel and cope with it the way you need to cope with it. But your dad is different. Your dad is like, you need to be strong and hold the family together. Cause for him, it's important for the family to be together. So, he's acknowledging that. He also says if y'all decide to make a change or if y'all need, a change of location or a change of scenery, he supports that. And it's OK. He's not upset. OK, sweetheart, he's with you, sweetheart. He is so with you. And he's OK. He's fine. So even though it happened quickly, I feel like he is OK with it because there was something else going on and he did not want to be bed ridden and he didn't want anyone taking care of him. OK.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:56:33] Ok.

Ferny [00:56:33] You're welcome.

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:56:34] You're so smart.

Ferny [00:56:36] You're welcome, sweetheart. You take care of yourself, OK?

Instagram Live Client 3 [00:56:38] OK.

Ferny [00:56:40] Bye bye. Bye bye.

Ferny [00:56:45] I've got a couple more here. Let's see, Daniellas Anabria, Hey Ferny. I just got promoted, just as you predicted. What do you see this experience being like? Be patient, because even though you got promoted, the first couple of months are going to be a pain in the ass and then after that, you'll be all right and it'll work out for itself. You might also have another opportunity for a promotion late next year. So be prepared because you might have another opportunity for an improvement to that as well. Okay.

Ferny [00:57:17] Let's see.

Ferny [00:57:34] Hello. Hello. Hello. Hey.

Instagram Client 4 [00:57:40] Oh, I'm feeding my daughter. What's that look like my ceiling? That's funny!

Ferny [00:57:49] Hi. How are you doing?

Instagram Client 4 [00:57:52] Good! How are you?

Ferny [00:57:55] I'm good, you have beautiful skin by the way, just so you know, you have beautiful skin, you have beautiful skin by the way.

Instagram Client 4 [00:58:02] Oh, Thank you.

Ferny [00:58:03] You're welcome sweetheart What did you want to ask me about?

Instagram Client 4 [00:58:05] OK, well, a couple things. Well, not much with one main thing. Yes. Look, that's. Say hi.

Ferny [00:58:12] Hi. Hey, sweetheart. Hey, Momma. How are you doing? How you doing?

Instagram Client 4 [00:58:16] Just like. Ok, so thank you. I swear. She’s probably my mom reincarnated. So, my mom passed because the way she acts sometimes.

Ferny [00:58:26] Yeah.

Instagram Client 4 [00:58:26] My mom passed away. Two years ago. And, you know, it was you know, she had a stroke and then had another stroke in two months.

Ferny [00:58:36] Don't tell me too much because.

Instagram Client 4 [00:58:37] I know. I know. Yeah. So, I have been trying to, like, look for signs and like messages and just my mom, you know, just I miss her so much. Like, we miss her so much. And just everything happened so quickly with her passing. So, I'd be like trying look for signs, birds, angels, something, and just been struggling with that. And I just want to know if, like, is she okay? Like, was she in pain when she passed, you know? Was she mad because we cut her fingernails too short?

Ferny [00:59:13] No. Don't tell me too much, don't tell me too much. You're giving away all the goods First thing is your mom just said the name Patricia? Is there a Patricia or Pat connected to the family?

Instagram Client 4 [00:59:25] Tricia.

Ferny [00:59:26] Patricia or Pat or Patsy.

Instagram Client 4 [00:59:31] Oh, I have to find out.

Ferny [00:59:34] There's a woman there who passed away from cancer or breast cancer. Her name is Patricia or Pat or Patsy. So, she's acknowledging this woman being there. She also your mom wants to acknowledge, your mom's funny. She's funny. I feel like she tries to make light of everything. She doesn't want anyone to worry anybody to, like, be down or anybody to be, like, mad or upset or anything like that. And she says, you know, that I wouldn't want you to be upset. I don't know why you would think I would be mad at you. So, she's acknowledging that you need to stop with that. She also says you've always liked the extra attention. You always want me to come around more so than everybody else. So, she's acknowledging just how you are as a person. Your mom says she's proud of you because she says that you have proven yourself over and over again in your life. So, she says she's very proud of you. She also says that she has been. Thank you. I keep hearing bells or chimes. Do you have bells or chimes? If you ever hear that, you ever hear if you a ringing sound or a bell sound, that's a sign that your mom gives you cause she's acknowledging that. She also says that you're never outside. So, she sends the butterflies and there's nobody out there to be. But she says the butterflies are the symbol from her. So, she's acknowledging that as well. Okay. She also keeps acknowledging a bracelet. Do you know there's a bracelet or charm bracelet that she gave you or that you have it?

Instagram Client 4 [01:00:56] Yes.

Ferny [01:00:56] So she's acknowledging the bracelet. She also keeps acknowledging. I keep hearing Silent Night. Do you know there's some special connection with singing Silent Night at a play or singing at a at a at a church?

Instagram Client 4 [01:01:08] Yes. I don't.

Ferny [01:01:13] So for me, when I think of Silent night, I think of December, I think of Christmas, I think of the significance of that time frame. Do you know if someone if either she or someone liked Silent Night or Silent Night with a song that someone sent to her because she's showing me that song? Giving me that song so there's a reference there.

Instagram Client 4 [01:01:30] My oldest Isabella love singing Christmas like she'll sing Christmas songs in like January all throughout the year. She's always singing Christmas songs. I'm like, oh my God, it's not Christmas yet. But let me.

Ferny [01:01:45] Ask her if she's ever sung Silent Night or there's a connection between her grandma and Silent Night. Your mom also wants you to know that the light bulb is not broken, that it needs to. It is her messing with it? There might actually be the kitchen bulbs on the kitchen light, but she's acknowledging something like that. That is like thinking that the light bulb was messed up or needed to be fixed. And she says she tried to tell you it was her. She showed you it was her. You remember that.

Instagram Client 4 [01:02:13] It's like in my closet, my light in my closet, like I'll turn it off and on, off and on, off and on. I'm like, okay, you need to change. And then, like, you know, It will come on.

Ferny [01:02:22] OK. So be prepared. Be aware. It could also be happening in the kitchen or you might experience it in the kitchen as well, because she took me into the kitchen, and she showed me a light that was on that shouldn't have been on to begin with. And it was on. And it's almost like you thought someone left it on. But you didn't know who left it on. So, she's acknowledging that. You remember that. OK, that's mom. So, she says that that was her. She did that.

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